Friends of friends
Friends of friends: what AmidAmi does
The “Friends of friends” row, on the home screen
On the app’s home screen, one row is called “Friends of friends”, with this subtitle: “Friend to friend: that’s what AmidAmi is all about”. It shows you your friends’ friends who aren’t your friends yet.
The rule fits on one line: an accepted friend in common, never a directory. For someone to show up there, they have to be friends with one of your friends — a friendship accepted on both sides, not just a pending request. Nobody lands there because they live near you: that’s the other row, explained further down.
Each card says why it’s there:
- with one or two friends in common, it names them: “Friends with Léa”, or “Friends with Léa and Hugo”;
- from three upwards, it counts them: “4 mutual friends”.
The people with the most friends in common with you come first, and the list stops at twenty; “See all” opens it in full. If you don’t have any friends in the app yet, it simply tells you so: “Add your first friend: their friends will show up here”.
Adding means asking
The “Add” button on a card doesn’t add anyone outright: it sends a friend request, and the card shows “Requested”. The friendship only counts once the other person accepts.
A declined request can’t be sent again: that person is no longer suggested to you, and the app doesn’t let you follow it up.
And if a card doesn’t interest you, the little cross, “Stop suggesting”, removes it. That choice stays on your phone: nobody is told, and nothing is sent to anyone.
Finding your friends’ friends on their profile
The other way to come across a friend’s friends is their profile. Since version 1.0.1, a friend’s profile has a “Their friends” section: the list of their friends, twenty at a time with “Show more”, and a button to send each of them a request.
That list can only be seen between friends. You see your friends’ friends; someone who isn’t your friend can’t see yours, even if they have a pending request. When two people block each other, the section disappears on both sides.
Who gets suggested to you, and who never does
Never suggested to you in “Friends of friends”:
- someone who is already your friend;
- someone you already have a request with, either way — pending or declined;
- someone you’ve blocked, or who has blocked you;
- someone who has only come to a party through a link, without an account: no account means no profile to suggest;
- someone who has chosen not to be suggested (see below).
And the “Suggestions” row, just below
Since version 1.0.1, a second row, “Suggestions”, offers “People you might know”. It isn’t based on a friend in common, and it’s better to know exactly what it is based on. In order:
- the people you actually went to a party with in the past year — the card says “At the same event”, with the party’s name;
- then people in your city, your region, your country, your continent.
For those, the card only says “Same city as you”, “Same region as you”…: the app never shows which one. The row stops at thirty people, and it doesn’t repeat the ones “Friends of friends” already shows you. As with friends of friends, “Add” sends a request that the other person accepts or not.
Not showing up any more: one setting, for both rows
It’s all in Settings › Privacy › “Suggest me to other people”. The setting is on by default. Once it’s off:
- you no longer appear in “Friends of friends” or in “Suggestions”, for anyone;
- you no longer appear in your friends’ “Their friends” list, for anyone who isn’t already your friend.
What it doesn’t do, and it’s worth knowing: it doesn’t remove you from search. Someone who types your name or your username can still find you and send you a request — which you accept or not.
What a member who isn’t your friend sees: your name, your username, your city and your photo. Your contact details and your social accounts are for your friends only, and “Private account”, on the same screen, keeps your whole profile for your friends.
Friends of friends and parties: the host stays in charge
An AmidAmi party is private by default. Only the host and the people they’ve invited can see it. Being a friend of a friend gives you access to nothing: not the party, not its address, not the guest list.
The host invites people by name, and only from among their friends. To bring in a friend of a friend, there are two ways:
- become friends first — a request, accepted — then invite them like everyone else;
- or send them the party link. They open it in their browser, without installing the app, and answer. Their answer is a request, which the host accepts or not. Until the host has accepted it, they see neither the exact address nor the guest list.
Guests who answered “I’m in” or “Maybe” can pass the link on, unless the host turns off “My guests can send the link”. Every answer that comes in this way remains a request: nobody gets into a private party unless the host has decided so — not through the link, not through us.
A host can also choose to make their party public. It then shows up in “Open events” for all members, and “Ask to come” gets you straight in — unless the host has set it to “On request”: there again, the host is the one who accepts. It’s the host’s choice, party by party; nothing is public without them.
What AmidAmi doesn’t do
- It isn’t a dating app. It’s for organising parties with friends; friends of friends are a way to widen the circle, not a catalogue of profiles.
- Nothing is indexed. Neither profiles nor parties show up in a search engine; an invitation’s web page only opens with its link.
- No advertising, no trackers. Suggestions are worked out from your friends, your parties and your city, and none of it is sold on.
Frequently asked questions
Why is the app called AmidAmi?
Because it sounds like the French “ami d’ami”, “friend of a friend” — a pun that sums up what the app does: the best parties often mix friends and friends of friends, as long as someone keeps the list.
Can my friends see my friends list?
Yes, in the “Their friends” section of your profile. People who aren’t your friends can’t see it. And if you turn off “Suggest me to other people”, you no longer appear in your friends’ “Their friends” list for anyone who isn’t already your friend.
How do I stop being suggested to my friends’ friends?
Settings › Privacy › “Suggest me to other people”. Once it’s off, you no longer appear in “Friends of friends” or in “Suggestions”. People can still find you by typing your name or your username in search.
If I remove someone from my suggestions, are they told?
No. “Stop suggesting” is remembered on your phone only, and nothing is sent to the person.
Can a friend of a friend see my parties?
Not a private party — that’s the default setting — until the host has invited them or accepted their request. A party the host has made public, on the other hand, shows up in “Open events” for all members.
Do you need the app to come to a party?
No. The party link opens in a browser: you see the party, answer, chat and add your photos without installing anything. Your answer is a request that the host approves.
Going further
Two guides, useful with or without the app: how to throw a party with friends of friends without each group keeping to its own corner, and how to bring a friend to a party while letting the host decide. What has changed, version by version, is in What’s new.